My mentor, a columnist who writes weekly about her experiences in one of Nation Media Group’s products, recently wrote about her terrible memory and I quickly diagnosed her condition as “mummy brain”. This condition occurs in women who are about to or have just delivered babies. Top symptoms include memory lapses, hearing the cry of a baby even though they are quiet or not even there, putting the baby first, no matter what the situation. As a new(ish) mum myself, I quickly recognized the symptoms as I myself have been suffering from the same.
One of the best examples I can use to demonstrate how severe my condition is is that I have been meaning to upload an article in my blog for the longest time and guess what? I always forget! I get a fantastic topic to explore, I play out the points in head to get the flow of the story and when I finally get round to typing it out, I forget all that I had planned to write. Other times, I get an interesting topic and just as I am about to develop it something distracts me and poof! It’s gone. This has been plaguing me for the past few months, and I sincerely hope that this will come to an end soon.
Something else that I have been forgetting is my mother’s birthday. Though she never sys it out loud, my mum loves it when we remember and spoil her on the day. I never forget the date itself, it is December 24th, quite a hard one to forget. But I have been of late unable to get her a good gift on time. This year, around September, I went shopping for success cards and stumbled upon the best card for my mum. I knew that I would forget to get another one closer to the date and even if I did remember, it wouldn’t be as nice. So I bought the card, even signed it and kept it very well. On the 23rd of December, we were with the almost birthday girl, but because I did not want to spoil the surprise too early, I decided that I would find a way to get it to her the following day. I forgot to remove it from its hiding place. I remembered about the card when we were with her and I could not get it. Let us just say that today is the 9th of January and I am considering just sending it to her for this year’s birthday, as I have even forgotten where I have kept it!
Despite my poor memory, I have found ways to cope. I pack my handbag and things in advance. This way, whenever I remember to add something to the bag, I just add it before I forget and before it is needed. I have also taken to writing lists. To do lists, shopping lists, budgets, everything. And how, you ask, do I remember everything I need for my shopping lists? I just walk around the house and check what is there and what is finished. I go to the kitchen and check the levels of cooking oil, unga, rice; I go to the fridge and see the carrots and hoho and dania then I check the toilet paper and bar soap and detergent. It is a process, I do not deny, and when I have picked an item at the shop, I cross it off the list, lest I buy five times what I need. So, it is obvious by now that this article was on my list. Let me publish it quickly before I forget!
To all doubting Thomases out there, mummy brain is real! It is hard and it is frustrating. When a new mum tells you she forgot, please believe her. It is hard functioning with less our brains as it is!
And for all mummies out there, let us work to finding new ways to deal with this scourge, no more forgetting in the New Year!